Jessica @ How Sweet June 23rd, 2010 at 22:51

I honestly don’t know if I could answer fairly because I don’t really have anything that bothers me. But I would hope that after time I would come to love and accept it?

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FatFighterTV June 23rd, 2010 at 23:07

I am dealing with this problem right now and do not like it.

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Fauxtographer June 24th, 2010 at 0:28

None of Ms. Fox’s fans are looking at her thumb, if you know what I mean.

I’m pretty self-conscious in general, so I’m sure I would fixate on any distinguishing flaw. But maybe if I spent all my time worrying about my club thumb, I wouldn’t have much time left over to sulk about my giant pores or saggy boobs? Maybe not…

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Emergefit June 24th, 2010 at 1:40

wear big baggy t-shirts

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Miz June 24th, 2010 at 6:24

hmmmm I like to think Id not care and DO THINK I DONT CARE (people are constantly telling me that an easy quick nosejob would lessen my…prominent proboscis ) but its part of me and in a way part of my jewish heritage

I also cut my finger off when I was young and it was reattached.

this was 35+ yrs ago and the reattaching thing wasnt perfected yet
the husband and I lovingly call it my claw.

I love my claw.

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Fauxtographer Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 11:40 pm

@Miz, Holycrap. How did you cut your finger off??

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Linda June 24th, 2010 at 8:44

I think that if you have some kind of flaw that you live with day after day, you come to accept it (or do something about it!) and really don’t care what other people think about it.
Call me crazy but I don’t think Megan Fox is “all that”. So I really don’t care to look at any part of her let alone her fugly clubbed thumb! lol!

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Kelly @ Healthy Living With Kelly June 24th, 2010 at 9:24

That is such an interesting question. I would like to say that I would be but considering that I am not confident now (and have no obvious asthetic flaws) I can’t imagine that I would be with a very obvious one. I am rereading and I am not trying to say I don’t have flaws…just that I don’t have any obvious physical flaw…does that make sense?

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Josie Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 11:00 am

woman, be confident in your hawt-ness. you’re da bomb.

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Kelly @ Healthy Living With Kelly Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 5:23 pm

@Josie, Thanks Josie! You are too sweet!

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444 June 24th, 2010 at 10:37

I would totally freak out because I already think people are scrutinizing me when I don’t actually have anything “wrong.” And I know people do stare if there is any little thing that is not typical. God forbid someone has a limb missing or malformed or has dwarfism or anything different with their face – I see the people secretly starting at those people, who have to just go about their day acting like they don’t notice 20 people staring at them at once (or they could freak out and yell “get a life” but for some reason they don’t. My friend who has dwarfism has tiny kids saying, “Mommy, look at that little man” and he sometimes says, “hey kid, look at your momma’s fat azz.”) I don’t think I’d cope well being one of those people because I can’t stand people looking at me for any reason for more than one second.

… kids are the WORST. I have a daughter who has some issues and looks a little different, although pretty. She is far from helpless and is busy and active. But people don’t care about pretty, they just care about identifying who is different. Adults studiously make sure they are not caught looking, (when I turn around I catch their heads whipping 45 degrees and fixating on a point in space) but their little kids just stare and stare… and I don’t think she looks very different, but I guess kids are the great identifiers and if they see anything that does not look like it “should,” then their great perplexity is evident.

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444 Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 10:58 am

I came off more negatively than I meant to. I keep forgetting that in my daughter’s case, she is very young to be wearing glasses, and that in and of itself is an attention-getter (we all look at something out of the ordinary) and in fact, her glasses are very stylin.’ So I have to remember that people might be staring because they noticed her cuteness secondary to being drawn to her red on the outside/zebra print on the inside awesome frames. (just ordered the hot purple ones with tiny rhinestones – hey, when you’re a little kid and wear glasses you have to do it right.)

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Fauxtographer Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 11:50 pm

@444, Little kids with glasses are pretty much always adorable 100% of the time. It might catch people’s eye because it’s different, but not different in a negative way at all. I think it’s safe to assume that they’re admiring the cuteness, or thinking, “I wish I could get away with wearing zebra print glasses!”

And re: staring at people with dwarfism, the other day in the grocery store I literally did a double take when I saw a guy towering over the freezer cases. He must have been at least 7’6″. I know it’s rude, but it was a natural reaction. I didn’t stop and gawk, but I admit I did have to take a second look. I don’t know if he saw me. He’s probably used to it, though.

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Josie Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 10:59 am

I actually got caught staring at a toddler because her hair was completely covering her face. I thought it was cute and I chuckled about it, but her grandma got the wrong impression and snapped at me saying, “she makes her hair like that!!!” geesh. sorry lady.

But I tell ya, I am in the process of training my 5-year old not to stare or point at people. It’s so innocent at first, but it does need to be put in check by the parent immediately.

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444 Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 11:05 am

@Josie, LOL – Grandma was having a bad day, I guess. Josie, can you believe that one of my sons once said the classic, “Mommy, look at that fat lady!” (I think it was out of earshot) and other things that were just plain awkward. Thankfully he’s the last one to say anything embarrassing now.

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KCLAnderson (Karen) June 24th, 2010 at 11:09

If I was born with a serious, obvious flaw I might be less self-conscious than I would be if all of a sudden I developed one, or something happened to cause one. To me, the examples you used weren’t all that serious (in my humble opinion). I imagine that a serious burn or other disfiguring accident would be a lot harder to handle. I have second what Kimberly Lee said…besides, what is a flaw? Is it something we’re born with? Something that happens to us? Something we do to ourselves? Here’s something I have a hard time with: I squeeze and pick pimples until they get all scabby and ugly. I do it to myself and it often feels like I can’t control it. I can’t stand the feeling of a scab so I pick it. This is something I am very self-conscious of and I guess it’s a flaw in two ways: the pimple itself and my behavior towards it.

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Josie Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 11:18 am

For me personally, a flaw is something I perceive to be wrong with myself or something that others perceive as a flaw by society’s stupid standards (unfortunately). I can relate to you on the pimple thing. I was worse about it a few years back, but I still catch myself picking and picking until finally, it looks worse than the actual pimple did.

A lot of my hair fell out in front after I had Greedy Baby. I could feel people staring, and some were even so bold to say, “what’s wrong with your hair?” – my hairdresser even said it! Almost two years later and it’s finally grown in about an inch’s length and not noticeably bald anymore.

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Hungry Jenny June 24th, 2010 at 12:19

What an interesting question. But in a word, no, I don’t think I would ever feel confident in that situatioin, no matter how hard I’d try not to care or let it bother me. Like many of the commenters on this post, I already have bouts where I lack confidence in the way I look and get paranoid if strangers look at me for too long in the street etc. I’m more self-conscious these days because I have braces to correct my bite and jaw, but just keep thinking ahead that it will eventually lead to my jaw being aligned correctly

I can’t actually see anything ‘wrong’ with Megan Fox’s thumb, I think she looks beautiful! Hungry Jenny x

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Helen June 24th, 2010 at 16:51

Um, no. I’m not even confident now.

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Jen June 24th, 2010 at 21:19

I’d never noticed her thumb until you pointed it out. I wouldn’t have a problem with a flaw such as that and I totally expect that people would make fun of it, I would be the first to point it out and make fun of it. Of course I grew up with red hair and am totally used to being picked out of crowds and teased about it. A club thumb would be kinda cool.

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Natalia June 25th, 2010 at 8:48

Well, I can offer a bit of insight….not sure it’s relevant .  I have an obvious birthmark on my neck.  It’s a skin color raised mole that grows above and below the skin.  It’s kind of shaped like a Y and when I was a baby my mother came in to find my Aunt trying to peel it off my neck.  She thought rice krispy’s were stuck on my neck.  LOL

Up until the time I hit middle school I didn’t really think much about my birth mark, I looked at it everyday but didn’t see it.  Then I hit middle school and kids started teasing me because they thought it was hickey.  During that time I was much more aware of it and wished it was gone.  Now as an adult I’m back to not noticing it.  I’m not self conscious as it is a part of me and I’ve had it since birth.  

I think in the case of Megan Fox she probably doesn’t notice her thumb at all.  The other lady, depending on how long she’s been bald, she might not think about it either.  

If you don’t have something like this than it’s hard to relate I think.  I’m not sure I can put this to words, but for me I don’t notice my birth mark at all, but if it showed up on your neck tomorrow than of course you’d be freaked an self conscious, but I think eventually once you got used to it, it became a part of you, you’d forget it was there, maybe…

Now I’m thinking that because I was born with it I didn’t know to be self conscious about it..maybe if this thing showed up later in life, I might not have come to be so comfortable with it….hmmm something to think about! 

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444 Reply:
June 25th, 2010 at 10:32 am

@Natalia, I’m not sure if you’ll come back to read or answer this, but I’m just curious: I got what you are saying – it makes perfect sense – but I want to know if you notice people staring or looking too long at your neck and I’m wondering if you get annoyed by that. (actually I have no idea whether it’s large or the size of a quarter which would make a difference, I would think – I knew someone who had a mark covering 2/3 of her neck.) Or are you so used to that behavior that you don’t notice people doing that?

Or do people try hard not to stare and they do a good job of it?

Or do people ask, and do you find that annoying?

I find myself wishing that more people (people who care, not strangers with no real interest who are perhaps mean) would just ask me about my daughter and I’d be happy to tell them about her and even how well she’s doing. I know this is not a very good comparison to a birthmark issue at all. I was just thinking I wish people who know me a little better than just being in a grocery line with me would ASK and it would be a great conversation-starter. It would almost be like they’re indicating they care! And I love to talk about my kids! But they’re afraid to offend so I have to bring it up if it gets brought up. Sorry, I rambled off your topic onto mine.

But back to the birthmark, I’m still curious if you get annoyed by people staring and asking questions.

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Natalia Reply:
June 25th, 2010 at 6:32 pm

@444

My birthmark isn’t that big, it might cover a dime?  But it’s also flesh colored so I think that people don’t notice it right away.  The only time I noticed people gawking at it was in middle school and who isn’t self conscious during that time of life?!

As an adult I don’t notice people looking at it and I’m so used to my birthmark that I might not notice that they were looking AT it.  I think that has a lot to do with not being self conscious of it.  I think the more self conscious you are about stuff like that the more prone I would be to think that people were staring and pointing even if they weren’t.  

Pertaining to your daughter, we live in such a p.c. world, I think you’re right people are afraid to offend.  Maybe the next time you bring it up with a friend you could also say (if you haven’t already), I really like to talk about my daughter and I like it when my friends ask about her….  maybe they’ll get the hint? 

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Jill@EverydayOriginal June 25th, 2010 at 14:01

Hell yes I would embrace my flaw!! Maybe that’s because like Miss Delaware my dad has alopecia so for most of my life he has had no hair; no eyebrows, no leg hair, nothing. And might I add, he looks freaking fabulous!! 

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Ryan @NoMoreBacon June 27th, 2010 at 14:31

MEGAN FOX HAS THUMBS?! I seriously never noticed!

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Natalia Reply:
June 29th, 2010 at 7:12 am

@Ryan @NoMoreBacon,

haha!! 

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BPDisME July 17th, 2010 at 19:03

Thanks a lot for your kind words, Josie! Let´s hope my comment will give someone out there at least a new view on things..

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