Fitness Romance Saga
He Called Me An 'Old Fatty'
March 16th, 2010 • 27 Comments | Leave a Comment »
In case you didn’t hear already, my kid called me an Old Fatty. This was after he played the drums on my stomach and saw it wobble like a cross-dresser wearing heels for the first time.
And then he laughed at me.
No matter how slender I get, my mid-section will always be a little like jello.
Why?
Because my spawns stretched out my skin while they were incubating under my abs. The more weight I lose, the more my stretch marks look wrinkly-jiggly. And once the fat slab remnants are totally eradicated, my stomach will no doubt look like the chick in the picture (above) – muscle all round with the loose skin waving.
I considered what to do about this. Do I tummy tuck or just leave my body alone?
I lean towards leaving (and loving) my body as is – no cutting and chopping. What sealed the deal for me was last year’s news about former Miss Argentina (1994), Solange Magnano. She died from complications of butt lift surgery. Magnano was only 38 years-old and the mother of 7-year old twins.
She left a family behind while on a mission to make her butt look prettier. A butt lift obviously isn’t the same as a tummy tuck, but it’s all elective plastic surgery. It comes with risks I’m not willing to take.
My buddy Roni had the tummy tuck and she looks freakin’ awesome. Cosmetic surgery is a personal choice. Go for it if you think it’s right for you. But as us older women (and men) get back into fitness to shed the pounds, let it NOT come with the unrealistic expectation that we’ll achieve the taut skin of a 21-year old.
Weight loss sometimes brings the wrinkly-jiggly skin. That’s me over here. And according to my child, I am an Old Fatty.
So be it.
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(Confession: I considered withholding sugary sweets from my Greedy Kid #3 as retaliation for calling me names. Bah!)
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Jessica @ How Sweet March 16th, 2010 at 16:54
You will NEVER be an old fatty!
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Jody - Fit at 52 March 16th, 2010 at 17:20
You look awesome!
Plastic surgery is individual & as long as you do all the research & due diligence, I see nothing wrong with it. Honestly, if I had the money, I would do a little bit here & there for sure. I would get the face fixed a bit but NOT Joan Rivers like or some of the others… and a couple other things that clothes hide…
It is hard when ya work out like crazy & those couple things elude you.. even when I was younger so it is not all about age…
Josie, I applaud you!
One thing you can say about kids, out of the mouths of babes,, they can be brutally honest!
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Erin March 16th, 2010 at 17:28
Your not old woman! Hey I’ll have wrinkly skin too in a few months
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No tummy tuck. They are too expensive.
You do something that most women (including me) wish they could do with ease, love your body. Only a truly strong woman can do that and you my dear are a very strong and beautiful woman!
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Josie Reply:
March 16th, 2010 at 6:25 pm
@Erin, but you might not have the skin issue. Not every woman does!
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Cassie March 16th, 2010 at 22:23
Old fatty.. never that, you look fabulous.. tummy tuck isn’t worth it.. keep doing what you’re doing..
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jenn March 17th, 2010 at 1:52
The other day my son thought is was hilarious to point out that my but was “dripping out of my underwear”. Ugh. Kids.
Yeah plastic surgery is a very personal choice. I think about it sometimes but I would be way too scared that I would be the one in 100,000 to die for vanity. I also have some others personal conflicts that wouldn’t make it any easy choice for me.
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Josie Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 5:51 am
@jenn, so your kid is an expert on underwear drippage? double ugh.
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Miz March 17th, 2010 at 6:05
ahhhh children.
there is nothing like spending the day with my 4 yo to have my usually pretty great self esteem knocked down a peg or 12….
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Madame March 17th, 2010 at 6:55
I was just discussing this with my trainer the other day. I have no kids to show for my skin issues (I was just a big girl, lol) and I’ve been researching the idea of similar procedures (tummy and ‘bewbs’). Yes, it’s mostly for aesthetic reasons but also comfort. A big investment, but I haven’t completely cancelled out the idea once I reach a goal weight. To each her own!
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Shannon March 17th, 2010 at 9:45
I feel your pain! Rewind 7 years ago when my son was 4. I was looking in the mirror at my rear-end (surprised?) in a new pair of rockin’ jeans.
Me: “I love these jeans! They make my butt look great.”
(4 year old enters room. Me still looking in mirror)
4 year old: “Yeah, you have a J-Lo butt”.
(ya know, Jennifer Lopez)
Me: “Thank you! I do have a J-Lo butt!
4 year old: “Uh…I said Jell-o…”
Damn kids!
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Tracey @ I'm Not Superhuman March 17th, 2010 at 9:56
Hmm…do I hear dinner without dessert for that child?
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Roni March 17th, 2010 at 10:11
You are not old.. nor a fatty! Geeesh!
I admire you so so so much! I can’t say I regret doing the tummy tuck, cause I don’t. It was a VERY personal choice. Would I do it again now? at my age? I’m not sure. I have grown to love all my other imperfections and boy are there many! lol
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cher March 17th, 2010 at 10:14
I always told myself that if I got to my goal weight and kept it off for at least a year or two, my reward to myself would be a tummy tuck. this stemming from getting up to 282 lbs when I had Liam. But, I’m not at my goal, and I plan on having more kids now, so who knows what the future may bring. I know for a fact they’d never do the surgery if my diabetes isn’t under strict control anyway, so who knows…
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ML March 17th, 2010 at 11:19
The answer? Spanx. I’m telling you.
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love2eatinpa March 17th, 2010 at 11:45
why wouldn’t you love your body the way it is, it is awesome!
my daughter is kind enough to remind me that i have bags under my eyes. thanks, honey!!!
in the big picture, i guess there are worse things our kids could say to us, right?
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Josie Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 12:55 pm
@love2eatinpa, oh, but I do love it. just not nice to hear other people whine about my body. And oh, I got the dark circle thing going on under my eyes. Aargh!
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Kelly @ Healthy Living With Kelly March 17th, 2010 at 12:37
I love that you are owning your body!
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Diane Fit to the Finish March 17th, 2010 at 15:05
Just shows that he doesn’t know anything! You are fabulous!!
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JourneyBeyondSurvival March 17th, 2010 at 15:41
He didn’t! Oh, that child would be either cowering in shame as I vent the steam inside, or far far away courtesy of the fabulous friends that don’t want me in jail.
Just kidding. But, I have the world’s easiest stretch markin skin. Some resident asked my mom “What IS THAT?” When he was helping her with labor. It was the pink stretch marks. I’m surprised she didn’t kick him. Such are my genetics, but I’m just going to leave my body be. I just don’t really want to consider the other option. I just don’t want to.
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Shannon March 17th, 2010 at 16:12
LOL (sorry) I can just picture it! Perfect example of why mine are called the Rottens! I have went both way son the plastic surgery. Today I would say no but 4 years ago I subjected myself to 3 consultations UGH!
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Gelareh @ Nutritious Foodie March 17th, 2010 at 17:35
I am like you… I am patrified of needles and thinking about a surgery… so I will live with what I have….
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Jen March 17th, 2010 at 21:46
Now I know what to call it! Wrinkly-jiggly. I would love to have the firm skin of a 21 year old, because I just didn’t appreciate it back then, but I am not willing to go under the knife for it either. I earned this body, I’ll keep it the way it is.
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BK March 18th, 2010 at 9:28
LMAO @ your son.. when I read that on twitter u know I couldn’t stop laughing LOL.. Don’t matter you are still HOT
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freak4fitness March 20th, 2010 at 8:25
You are a superwoman! I’ve virtually grounded your son
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Lanine Bradley March 22nd, 2010 at 19:28
Ok- this photo sealed it. I think I might love you forever. I often have the cut-no cut fantasy. It seems so easy.
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Michelle @ SugarWand March 23rd, 2010 at 5:49
yo, have you changed your website..no wonder I haven’t been able to stalk you.
I have lost over 100lbs and man oh man would I like to have a thigh lift and tummy tuck. But you know what..when a man is up in your business…it doesn’t really matter (for the most part). And really..I haven’t had spawns yet. I know that they’re going to stretch me out..and frankly I don’t care.
I get it..and I may change my mind right at some point. Roni goes look awesome. But I’d rather spend money on a trip to Africa, a down payment on a house and/or a canoe.
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444 March 26th, 2010 at 23:07
My niece is grown now and hardly speaks and definitely never, ever says anything rude. But when she was 3, my sister asked her to move over to make room for me in the back seat. As I got in the car, she solemnly and matter-of-factly observed, “You need a lot of room for your bottom.”
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